The pain that comes with losing a loved one can be debilitating. When someone dies, survivors must face the unsettling reality that the person they loved is not coming back. The first few days following the death are a blur as the bereaved deal with obituaries, casket selection, and funeral planning details.
The days following the funeral are often the most difficult for the family of the deceased. People who gathered around to support them as they grieved have gone back to their own lives. Feelings of fear, loneliness, and uncertainty fill their days and keep them awake at night. One of best ways to comfort someone who is grieving is to send a heartfelt message of condolence. A hand written message conveying a poignant or funny memory will let them know you are thinking of them, and remembering their loved one.
Loss of a Parent
Dear Mary,
I am thinking of you and of your beautiful mother today. She was a loyal friend and a true inspiration to so many people. Her laughter came easily, and she always had a kind word for everyone she met. Your mom’s wonderful spirit will never be forgotten.
Loss of a Spouse
Dear Dan,
I want you to know that I am here to do whatever you need in the coming days. I am thinking of Lisa, and of how much I admired her strength and courage. Your kind of love story is one that few people experience, and my heart breaks for your loss. I hope the beautiful memories you have of your sweet Lisa will comfort you as you face these difficult days.
Loss of a Child
Dear John and Stacey,
As you grieve the loss of your beautiful baby, please know that we are available around the clock to talk, listen, or do whatever you need. This isn’t supposed to happen, so I don’t have the words to express the depth of my feelings and sincere sympathy. Your precious Jared will live in our hearts forever.
Loss of a Sibling
Hi Joe,
I know Steve was not only your brother, but also your best friend. I will never forget the great times the three of us had together. I loved him like a brother too, Joe. I don’t know what to say except, call me. I’m always just a phone call away.
These sample condolence messages may help you express sympathy to someone you know. Avoid saying things like “It’s all for the best,” or “At least he’s not suffering anymore.” Express your true feelings and try to add a fond remembrance of the person who passed away. Most of all, write a message that is warm, sensitive, and sincere.
